If you're an entrepreneur, or you're in the process of a big career shift, Thanksgiving can feel like ground zero for self doubt and soul crushing anxiety and resentment. My advice? Bring a pie instead of a cathedral. :)
This advice comes from the improv saying Bring a Brick, not a Cathedral, or - don't forget to collaborate! As a coach and consultant, I've become fond of using this metaphor in advance of tricky conversations to remind my clients not to bring more than their share into the room. It's your job to enter a conversation with your truth - with your offering... not build the whole narrative on your own.
Confrontation cathedrals can include:
And the same goes for Thanksgiving cathedrals! The assumption that your scene partners (your family) are judging, undermining, dis-believing, pitying, etc instead of simply trying to collaborate with perhaps not ALL of the most helpful tools is a CATHEDRAL.
Remember that you don't know what they're thinking. It's easy to think you're reading the room, and realize that you're ultimately just reading your inner narrative of self judgement and fear.
The antidote for this is to enter in full alignment.This means that you're in a headspace of equal faith/trust in yourself, your scene partner and the agile creative process (you bring a brick, your scene partner brings a brick, you listen and add something simple and specific with authenticity. Boiled down: listen, build, repeat.)
You are enough. You are on the right path. You are making good choices for your career and for your family. You do not need Uncle Frank's validation, my friend.
Also, remember that for all you know, the silence and blank stares are simply a biproduct of absorbing unfamiliar information. Perhaps your willingness to invest in yourself and your future is raising the tide for everyone. I know from personal experience that stepping out in faith over fear creates a ripple effect that touches people you may never expect.
Your job is to listen to your intuition, build what you believe in and trust the process.
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